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Welcome!

About bit about me:

Hi everyone! My name is Jayden Vincente (or J. R. Vincente) and I am an author of erotic fiction. I’ve been writing for 15 years and published my first novel in 2015! I am active in the BDSM lifestyle and have been focusing my writing on Dominant and submissive relationships.

Published Novels:

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TMI Tuesday

From http://propertyofpotter.com :
1. What strange areas of your body are ticklish?

Every part of my body is ticklish. I wish I were kidding, but I’m not. Every. Part.

From https://scarletrosevixen.wordpress.com :
2. What is something you are interested in sexually, but only on a purely fantasy level? Something that you think about but could never fully act on.

Being a 24/7 submissive. I love the idea of being a slave, I even wrote a book about it. It was my first published novel.

From http://truepleasuresreviews.com :
3. If you could have a week of the best sex ever in human history but you had to have a fish head as your head for the rest of your life, after that week, would you do it?

Uh, I don’t think so. Having a fish head sounds fun and all, but…

From http://sexualitysanctuary.blogspot.ca :
4. What do you consider taboo and have you ever ventured into this territory? Was it a great, good, bad or horrific experience?

There are a lot of taboo fetishes that I have been interested in. (In fact, some of them are featured in the book I referenced above.) I have ventured into some of them, and I have had really good experiences over all. It helps having a very non-judgy partner.

From http://www.shadowedseductress.com :
5. What part of your body do you consider the most unusual that you enjoy being stimulated?

Most unusual… Hm. The parts that I like being stimulated are having my hair played with, my feet rubbed, my back rubbed (touched, whatever)… Oh, I know! I like it when someone gently caresses the line where my bra goes under my breasts and the crease where my thighs meet my pubic area. Those areas get really sore sometimes, and it feels nice to have them stimulated.

Bonus:

From http://herprivateisland.com :
If you could make a porn film/video with any celebrity, who would it be and why?

Angelina Jolie. I have been enamored with her for as long as I can remember. She’s so beautiful.

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TMI Tuesday

1. What makes you insecure?

Anything where I don’t know what to expect. If I have been somewhere before, or have someone with me who has, I am much less insecure.

2. What do you expect from a romantic love relationship?

Openness, honesty, communication.

3. What do you expect from a friendship?

Openness, honesty, communication. The only difference is that we don’t have romance/love.

4. What do you expect from a Friends-with-Benefits situation?

Openness, honesty, communication. Actually, I’m not sure I can do Friends-with-Benefits. I get too attached, fall too hard, or however you want to think of it. I much prefer a relationship.

5. What expectations do you have for yourself?

Always do better than the last time. Do my best, all the time. Sometimes, that’s a tall order.

Bonus:   Post one picture (art, photograph, drawing) that depicts how you feel today.

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TMI Tuesday

1. For you happy life = ? + ? + ?

Family+Friends+Time+Love

2. How confident are you that your relationship will last?

Very. 15 years and counting, and very much in love, despite the odds.

3. Studies show exercise can improve your mood in the moment and play a preventative role for the future. How often do you exercise? What is your exercise?

I like going to the gym, but I rarely have time for it lately. It does make me feel good, though. I can’t wait to be able to go back on a more regular basis.

4. How recently has someone been hurt by your actions? Did you attempt to make things right or apologize?

Very recently. I always try to make things right and/or apologize. Immediately and always.

5. Solitude– do you welcome it or loathe it?

I am about 99% extrovert. So, I don’t care for a lot of solitude.

Bonus: Share with us something you haven’t told a partner but would like to.

I’m pretty open with my partners. Like, maybe too much sometimes. I legitimately can’t think of anything I haven’t told my partners. If I think of something to tell them, I tell them.

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TMI Tuesday

1. Which of these do you do the most with your significant other? List in order of frequency from done the most to performed less frequently. If you don’t engage in any of this with your significant other write N/A (not applicable)
a. Eat meals with your significant other without smartphones, tablets, TV or any device.
c. Share a morning kiss that lasts longer than six seconds.
b. Exercise together

We are big on our smartphones, but we connect in other ways. 😉
Morning sex is the best, and usually starts with a backrub and kisses.
We need to do this more…

2. Briefly tell us about a time when things felt helpless but you knew you would pull through.

When someone in my family passed away suddenly. It was really hard on all of us. I knew we would rally, but it was tough.

3. Would you rather have sex in a posh romantic hotel suite, on a secluded tropical beach or in your own bedroom? Why?

Posh romantic hotel suite, all the way! In suite hot tub, please!

4. Have you practiced orgasm denial? Did you like it? Would you do it again?

Not enough. Please, please?

5. Finish this line: I doubt I will ever tell you _____ .

About my “real” life. Being a bisexual, poly, kinky, bdsm author would not fly in my daily life.

Bonus: Would you pay good money to have the kind of sex you want, when you want?

Yeah, if I had the disposable income, I totally would.

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TMI Tuesday

1. When you’re old, would you rather die before or after your significant other?

I usually would say before, because I don’t like the thought of being without him. But given how much older he is than me, I hope I outlive him!

2. Would you rather live at the top of a tall apartment building, in your favorite city, or at the top of a mountain?

Apartment building. 100%. I love the city.

3. Would you rather have to sew all your clothes or grow your own food?

Sew my clothes. I would literally starve if I had to grow my own food.

4. Would you rather have your debt forgiven or have guaranteed good health for a decade?

Oh that is tough, but given recent health issues, as tempting as the former is, I would go with the good health!

5. Would you rather take a bubble bath with your boss or fuck your neighbor?

Um. Both would be very weird. I guess fucking my neighbor since that’s less intimate than a bubbly bath.

Bonus: Would you rather have the details of your financial life or your love life be made public?

Financial life. Revealing my love life to the public might land me in some trouble professionally. Being bisexual, poly, and into bdsm… Not everyone accepts that.

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So, what’s a “little”?

After I wrote my post on August 9th, two of my friends messaged me privately to ask what a “little” is. They hadn’t heard the term before and were waiting for the sentence to end. Such as, “she started to show some signs of being a little _________, too.” Fill in the blank: person, brat, what!?

So here I am to share what (little) knowledge I have of littles. I looked at urbandictionary, (a crap shoot for sure), but I found that their definition was pretty good:

“A little is someone that likes to act younger then they really are. It’s kind of like having an alter ego that’s much younger then yourself. Most littles don’t act little 24/7, but when they do slip into their younger alter ego it’s called slipping into headspace.”

They go on to define the age range as 0-8, which made me wonder: What about people who identify older than that? It turns out there’s a term for that, too! It’s, unsurprisingly, “middle.” Some places seem to define middles as 12-15, but others go as young as 9 (which fits with the “little” definition above).

In any case, it may seem weird to think about, but the key to remember about any of this topic is that it is…

always between consenting adults. Always.

So while it may seem odd to think of adults pretending to be, or acting as, children, we all know they are still adults. They look like them and act like them when they are out of the bedroom. I mean, we don’t think that someone who likes nipple clamps wears them all the time, do we? 😉

As I stated in my previous post on the 9th, I don’t have really any experience with it. None myself, and very little in my readings, but it is something many people are into. I’m not sure if I have enough background knowledge to take a fictional character that way, but maybe someday!

And if you want more information from people better informed than I am, I would encourage you to look around. The internet is chock full of information… both reliable and not. So tread carefully!

New plan!

Yesterday, I Tweeted:

   @JRVincente
I have a new author plan: Write all the words and then when I’m rich and my kids are grown, pay someone to edit and publish them. #amediting #mostlykidding #semiserious
As indicated, I’m mostly kidding, which means I’m also partially serious. Editing is terrible. Watching for the intricate details is a pain in the ass. Worrying about grammar and punctuation is tedious. (Actually, I don’t mind the grammar. It’s the details.)
But worse than editing, is publishing. Self ebook publishing isn’t actually that difficult. Putting together the manuscript is fine. Table of contents isn’t too bad. Even cover art is manageable. (I’ve used a picture I took, one my husband took, and one that I digitally created.) Then I have to come up with a blurb for the novel, a paragraph, a one-liner. I have to do front material and back material. I have to decide when/where/how I’m going to advertise and how much I’m willing to spend. It’s all terrible, and far too much work.
Hiring an editor wouldn’t be too far out of the budget. Hiring a social media manager and someone to do all that other stuff… that might be pushing it. Plus, I’m not even sure that’s a thing. (Is it a thing? I know social media managers exist…) But then again, I couldn’t let someone else manage my blog. It’s mine! My followers! My friends!
It’s a conundrum.