TMI Tuesday

1. To spice things up in the bedroom, how adventurous are you willing to be? (select one)
a. I have never role-played before and will need a lot of instruction.
b. I have tested the waters, but never acted out anything scripted.
c. I have got my feet wet and want more!
d. Dive in head first – nothing is too deep.

2. What scenario peaks your interest most? Why?
a. Romantic and sensual
b. Playful and fun
c. Kinky! I want it all.

3. Which of these is closest to your ideal setting for a fantasy?
a. A brothel
b. A dungeon
c. A bedroom
d. A prison cell

4. Which of the following toys would be prominently featured in your fantasy? (select one)
a. Feathers and whipped cream
b. Handcuffs, panty hose, and a necktie
c. Whips and chains
d. Ice cubes and a cold beer

5. It is time to take your sexy self to fantasy island, which fantasy will you bring to life to rock your lover’s world?

a. The Sassy Sexy Jersey Whore
Gaudy, Flashy, Showy…totally Jersey!

b. Kinky Cook
It’s all about the spice! Heating things up in the kitchen.

c. Naughty Maid
Your feather duster will tickle more than just the dust on the shelves.

d. Doctor Love
Saving lives and breaking hearts but not before you administer a head-to-toe physical examination.

e. Frisky Fireman
A hose so long you can put out several of the hottest fires and leave a smoldering heap as proof of a job well done.

Bonus: Tell us about your craziest or wildest role-playing adventure.

I don’t know that I have a particular role-playing adventure because we end up being ourselves when we play. But, there was one particular challenge we did on Fetlife years ago (10 years?) where someone posted challenges in a group and you got points for posting pictures doing all sorts of things. It opened up a whole host of kinks to me that I did for the challenge and found out I liked. There was a section of acting as a dog (eating off the floor, crawling). That might be the closest I’ve come personally. In fantasy, well… read any of my novels to hear about those. 😉

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Time and Love

Lately, I have been obsessed with the song If We Were Vampires by Jason Isbell covered by Chester See. This might be the saddest song I have ever heard. And those of you who know me, know that I don’t do SAD. Real life is serious and sad. So when I consume media (movies, books, television, music) I want it to be happy. I think I’ve only ever written one novel with a sad ending and it was a choose your own adventure ending. (Seriously, if you choose not to save the lost puppy, you deserve a sad ending.)

So the fact that this song has been on repeat for me for weeks is remarkable. So what makes it so poignant? Mortality has been on my mind a lot. With the sudden death of a family member almost a year ago, I have definitely focused a lot more on valuing the time I have, and spending it on what really matters. Friends. Family. Relationships. Experiences.

Those dishes can wait another day. That expensive piece of furniture can wait in favor of a trip with my husband.

This has dovetailed nicely with the TV show The Good Place which wrapped up recently. Without spoiling it, I will say that it forces the viewer to take a long hard look at their lives in a similar way to If We Were Vampires. If you haven’t watched it, I highly recommend it, and the podcast: The Good Place The Podcast. And as Marc Evan Jackson ends his podcasts, comment below with something good in the world. And then, go do something good.

TMI Tuesday

1. In the bedroom, what makes you insecure?

Being with someone new. Someone who doesn’t know me, who doesn’t yet understand what I like and what I don’t like and vice versa.

2. In the bedroom, what makes you a champion?

When I see that look in someone’s eye that I know I’ve hit the right spot, done the right thing.

3. When it comes to sexy time, I earn a gold medal _____ .

Uh… I’m not a super confident person, so that makes this hard. Creativity? I do write lots of fun sex things.

4. At the sexolympics, in which sport will you compete?
a. Artistic, synchronized water sex in the pool
b. Freestyle naked wrestling
c. Artistic naked gymnastics

5. Your significant other’s ex is coming to town and he/she wants to go out to dinner with them alone. How do you react?
a. It’s okay, no problem.
b. Not thrilled, but go ahead.
c. Not just no… HELL no!

Bonus: What kind of fidelity (being faithful) is more important to you?
a. Physical/Sexual.
b. Mental/Emotional.
c. Neither is important.
d. Both are equally important

That said, I’m poly. So, I’m not inherently that jealous. It also depends a lot on circumstances. #5 has happened before, but they have kids together, so…

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TMI Tuesday

1. If you had to wear a t-shirt with just one word on it for an entire year, what would it say?

Mom. Being a mom often consumes my life. Plus, it would explain away bad hair days and sweat pants.

2. What movie did your parents let you watch as a kid that they definitely should not have?

Jerry Maguire. It came out when I was 10. We watched it at home, so it was on VHS, but I was probably 11 or 12.

3. What are your hopes for this day?

That I will write lots of words! Tuesday is my writing day!

4. What is holding you back from going after what you want?

Society. I wish that I could be more honest about what I write and my relationships, but with my job, I can’t. 😦

5. If you could make a rule for a day and everyone had to follow it, what would it be?

Be kind.

Bonus: What is one thing you refuse to share? Why?

My toothbrush. Yuck!

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Sensuality

I struggle to come out of my hazy sleep in the middle of the night, feeling something. My brain struggles to process what’s happening. And then it’s like all my senses ignite. There is a thumb rubbing across my nipple. It’s not insistent or rough. It’s just steady. Up and down, across the little nub that has formed. As I revel in the feeling of that thumb across my flesh, my entire body suddenly feels like it’s on fire. My pussy contracts with need. I am spooned against my partner, and his cock is hard against my ass. I’m not fully awake, but I want him inside me, and I am not sure I can handle another second without it.

I grind my ass back against him and now he knows I’m awake. “Please,” I groan, and he knows. He knows me so well, every hum of my body.

“I’m sorry,” he says, “I didn’t mean to wake you.”

I don’t care. I don’t care at all. My hips are grinding more firmly against him, trying to change angles and get him inside me. His thumb keeps its slow movements, and I know I am going to lose my mind any second now.

I pull my body away from his and push him roughly on his back. He just smiles up at me as I climb on top of him, directing his cock into my pussy. I am dripping wet with need for him. When I first get him inside me, I am frozen with the feeling of fullness. This is exactly what I needed.

And then he grips my hips and we start to move, up and down, up and down, my pussy clenching around his cock. When he fills me with cum, I collapse on top of him and he caresses my back gently. It’s so soft and sensual, and the fire is still burning inside me.

His cock slips out of me, and I groan with the loss. He gently rolls me off of him and pulls me back into the spooning position we were in when I awoke. But this time, his thumb gently rubs against my clit, and I come undone in his arms.

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Writing Update! #1000000Words

In January, I wrote a total of 91,816 fiction words plus 1284 blog words. My goal is to write 1,000,000 words in 2020, but if they can all be fiction words, that would be great.

Highest word count day in January: 13,194
Average words per day: 2962

I am currently ahead of the game! I don’t think it will last, so I’ll be excited about it while I can. I have built a new world I’ll be debuting in April with the A to Z Blog Challenge and I am firmly in Book 2. Very exciting stuff!

If you’re interested in more stats and pretty graphs, here you go!

2-2-20 Tracking

Look at that little February blip there from yesterday! Woo!

TMI Tuesday

Welcome to another TMI Tuesday blog.

1. In a D/s relationship (dominance and submission) , what do you enjoy most?

I am a switch, so this is a very difficult question. I really like it all. I’m bi, poly, and a switch. But I can say that when things get tough and I crave something, it’s being submissive. Nothing centers me like serving someone else.

2. What do you want people to know most about D/s relationships?

I want people to know that no two D/s relationships look the same and THAT’S OKAY! As long as everyone involved are consenting adults, you can make your relationship look however you want to. Don’t get bogged down in what it “should” be, or what someone else is doing. Do what feels right to you and your partner(s).

3. For you, does D/s need to have a sadist and masochist component?

Maybe a little. But I love to write about Doms who are more caring than harsh. Impact play is fun, for sure. I’m not sure I could do without it in my primary relationship at this point. But it doesn’t exist in all of my other relationships.

4. For you, does BDSM have to involve sex?

It is sexual for me, but it doesn’t have to be for everyone. Many of the BDSM things I enjoy are very sexual/sensual.

5. If you are in a D/s relationship, why do you need it?

I need to feel grounded. I keep coming back to this idea that it centers me to serve someone else, but it really does. It’s an important part of who I am.

6. If you are not in a D/s relationship, would you like to be? Why?

So, obviously, I am. But I miss having a sub of my own. Even just a sub to play with occasionally. Having a Dom is wonderful. I couldn’t live without it. But it’s been a while since I’ve had a sub, and I would love to have one again. Someone who can serve and respect us both. Maybe someday soon.

Bonus:   What is the relationship between trust and vulnerability?

I can’t be vulnerable without trust. I trust easily. Too easily sometimes. And sometimes I’m too vulnerable because of it. But usually, the vulnerability comes after the trust has been earned for my husband, too, and that takes longer. He’s a really good judge of people.

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